I'm so confused

[edelricluver]

Hey Everyone. I've got a problem, some of u know about it but for everyone else here it goes: I like this guy and he likes me and the problem was that he had a girlfriend but then he tells me that he broke up with her and I don't know what to do. If he asks me out, don't know what to say. Plz I need all the help I can get. :confused:

[Kiddoh]

That's not confused. Confused in this case would be you thinking about cheerleaders in the shower. Or selecting "attack" on an enemy and somehow hitting someone in your party.

Just remember that if he broke up with one girl while liking you, chances are; he'll break up with you while liking another girl.

You should also note that a lot of guys seem to try and tarnish the reputations of their ex's if they're seen with another guy.

Besides, how does he treat other people? Is he a total jack-ass to people that he's not trying to suck face with?

Be smart about this. lust=/=love. Is there really a point in this relationship? Would he be able to support you if he got you knocked up? Is he the kind a guy that would shoot you and your mother for breaking up with him or for not putting out?

Highschool relationships are not what after-school-specials sugar-coat them to be.

[edelricluver]

I've heard all of this before. He's not after "it", he's already told me. I dunno. I'm getting ready to meet up wit him. HE's the kind of guy to go to for advice or if u just need a hug. He and I have been friends for a little while.

[Kiddoh]

Not after "it," eh?
Tchk, I guess. But remember that relationships can totally decimate your friendship. If he's the guy you goto for advice and hugs and w/e, you're better off keeping him as just a friend, unless you plan on having a serious relationship.

[Shape]

i fail to see the problem. you like him, he likes you. he is single now. if he asks you out and you like him say yes.

[ZeroEverlast]

If he asks you out, you say 'yes'.

It's one syllable. Shouldn't be that hard.

[KatandMouse]

I agree with Shape and Zero. If you're going to say anything other than 'yes', then you must not like him enough for it to work out.

[Anime_Demoness]

nods lots to shape and zero:)

[crazeekillsall]

HE's the kind of guy to go to for advice or if u just need a hug. He and I have been friends for a little while.

Friendships last longer than relationships. Almost always.

[Shape]

HE's the kind of guy to go to for advice or if u just need a hug. He and I have been friends for a little while.

Friendships last longer than relationships. Almost always.
and strong relationships start with strong friendships. almost always.

[El Wiseguy]

Shape's right on this one. The thing is, people confuse friendships and relationships as being different... but they're really not.

Once you get past all that googoo gaga feelings when you're together at first (it goes away eventually) then you're left with a friendship that's more intimate than any other relationship. But, it's still a friendship. Friendships are relationships that are just different. They're just not romantically involved or as intimate.

[ZeroEverlast]

Oh, is that so? I find that friends make poor lovers.

They not only begin to act differently but also expect to be treated differently after they're upgraded to "special" status.

[z311y]

I think it depends on the person. One of my best friends and I were together, and it was great. But, I think it honestly depends on the person; since we broke up our friendship has been stronger, not weaker.

[Kiddoh]

Daymn, how does that happen? -_-;
You people clearly live in a place where relationships don't have any negative affect on anyone.

A girl I graduated with was murdered by her boyfriend and left under a cabin for weeks untill the police found her boyfriend driving about in her supah-nice car.

[El Wiseguy]

Oh, is that so? I find that friends make poor lovers.

They not only begin to act differently but also expect to be treated differently after they're upgraded to "special" status.

If approached correctly, the issues can be worked through. Being "special" status doesn't mean you're in any more of a relationship than you were before.

When I say relationship past friendship, I'm talking about something that is on its way to actually going somewhere, like marriage. Something real. Something that when you start it, you don't start it with an ending in mind.

Generally speaking, I'm also not referring to physical part of the relationship either. You can go plenty far in a relationship without being too physical while learning each other's personalities and who they are. Working these issues out are far more important than make-out sessions. So, taking the time to learn and know each other benefits you in the long run moreso than the physical interaction.

[edelricluver]

WEll, I met up wit him and he introduced me to his new girlfriend. I felt so stupid.

[ZeroEverlast]

LOL owned.

[Kiddoh]

Can't say I didn't try. ~_~;

[crazeekillsall]

Ouch. Maybe he's just playing hard to get...? >_>

[El Wiseguy]

lol that's pretty hard to get. :P

[edelricluver]

I felt so stupid. I'll just say, that night wasn't a good night.

[staticgrave666]

I've been in a similar situation just chock it up to a miss understanding and move on other wise you will beat yourself up or it.

[z311y]

Aww. But really, just get over it, move on to someone else. Like, Daron Malakian... (No, I am not obsessed... Really... I'm not... Am I???)

[KatandMouse]

Aww. But really, just get over it, move on to someone else. Like, Daron Malakian... (No, I am not obsessed... Really... I'm not... Am I???)

No... we'll just say you're... um... can't think of anything.

YES, YOU ARE OBSESSED!!! :lmao:

[edelricluver]

Thanks everyone. :)

[Kanadian Beast]

Just take things slow for now. There is no need in rushing into a new relationship. You also do not want to be his rebound.

[edelricluver]

Well, he and I are still friends. I even invited him to my sweet 16 party next weekend.

[Kanadian Beast]

Cool. Yeah and just be friends.

[edelricluver]

it's tough being friends with him but that's what i have to do until he wants to be with me.